遣わす (つかわす) is an old/somewhat literary causative of 使う ('to use') — 'to let use / to dispatch.' ~ように言う is the indirect command pattern. Combined, it means 'told mother to let me use...' All in all, a slightly antiquated phrasing — modern casual Japanese would use 使わせてくれる or similar. こづかい ('pocket money, allowance') is a vocabulary word most learners will encounter early.